Love can be divided into three entities: lust, romance and attachment, according to anthropologist Dr Helen Fisher, who has been studying the subject for 32 years.
These three brain systems can operate in any order and in any combination. You can fall in love with someone before you sleep with them; you can become deeply attached to somebody and then fall in love with them; and you can have a sexual relationship, fall in love and then become deeply attached.

Lust is a craving for sexual gratification, which you can feel for a whole range of people. Those caught up in romantic love focus all their attention on the object of their affection. Not only do they crave them, but they are highly motivated to win them, they obsessively think about them and become extremely sexually possessive. Perhaps illogically, if things go wrong. they are attracted to them even more. During this state the brain is driven by dopamine, a neurotransmitter central to the reward system.

Romantic love is much more powerful than sex drive, says Dr Fisher, of Rutgers University, New Jersey. And she believes it to be a drive, rather than an emotion. "It doesn't have any facial expression, it's very difficult to control and it's one of the most powerful neural systems that has evolved," she says.

The third brain system is attachment - that sense of calm and security you can feel for a long-term partner. It is associated with the hormones vasopressin and oxytocin, which are probably responsible for the sense of peacefulness and unity felt after having sex. Holding hands also drives up oxytocin levels, as does looking deeply into your loved one's eyes, massage, and simply sitting next to them.
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And then there is another 'form' of Love, called: Unconditional Love.
That is what we are learning (also); it has no attachments, (no demands, no wanting/needing) ... learn to let go of your attachments.
It is learning to see deeply into the other person, why the person walked into your life, what is it you can share together, learn from eachother, without putting a time-frame around it.
Unconditional Love is a Love you feel for everyone, not just ONE person.
People tend to Love their spouse the most, or their children. When you learn to be Unconditional in your Loving, there is NO More or Less.
Love IS !
Unconditional Love is the deepest feeling of LOVE you have for everyone you meet.
For one second or a thousand years!
See also THIS.

There is much to say about Unconditional Love, it is not said in just a few words. There is also a chapter in E-book Part 2 about Unconditional Love, you can find the link to the e-books in the menu.

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The powerful Shiite cleric Moktada al-Sadr has left Iraq and has been living in Iran for the past several weeks, senior Bush administration officials said Tuesday.

Ofcorse, we have to have excuses to go 'in', since we cannot use the name of mister you-know-who anymore. Keep a close eye on what they bring in the news for the next coming days ...

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Global warming and the sun

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